Early Reading Skills

Before M learned to read, she would pretend to read by retelling the story from memory. TJ was impressed, but I was frustrated because I knew she was not really reading.

Now she can read, so I have moved on to teaching R how to read using the book Teach Your Child to Read in 100 Easy Lessons. In conjunction with the reading lessons, I encourage her to tell me stories from books that we had just read. She is not comfortable with being put on the spot; she is so afraid to fail that she does not want to try. So I said, "Well, let's make up a story to go with these pictures." And that makes her feel more secure. She can make up the words rather than read it perfectly, and I get to see things from her perspective. I get to learn a little about her mind works, what parts of the story meant something to her, and how she sees the world around her.

R is a bit young, but she handles the reading lessons very well. She knows each of the individual sounds that have been covered so far, but anytime she is asked to string sounds together to sound out a word, she acts distracted or just plain refuses to cooperate, sticking her thumb in her mouth. I began to realize that this is purely because she wants to do it right the first time, and if she is not 100% confident that she does not know the answer, she does not want to try.

So I began to alter my approach just a little in order to remove all pressure from her. Whenever the reading lessons tell me to say, "Now you sound it out," I say, "Now we will sound it out." She can hear my voice as I blend the sounds, and she can blend her voice with mine. Suddenly her cooperation abounded, and when we are done with one lesson, she asks for another.

R sometimes feels shy and sometimes gets lost in the shuffle of a busy family. If TJ and I did not make the effort to single her out for special moments, she would never be heard. I do my lessons with her at bedtime as part of tucking her in, reading her stories, and giving her kisses. Since she has her own room now, there are no interruptions from her sisters, and I have the opportunity to talk to her and encourage her to open up.

Now I see that M's pretend reading was a great tool to build language skills, confidence, and self-esteem. Last night, I shuffled up R's nighttime routine a little, and all we did was read books together, encouraging her to talk as much as possible.